How do I help a friend?

Supporting a friend facing domestic or sexual violence requires a delicate and informed approach. Trauma, fear, and a sense of helplessness often accompany such experiences. As a friend, you play a crucial role in providing support and resources to help them navigate this challenging situation.

Understanding Trauma: Traumatic experiences can have long-lasting effects on an individual's mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Recognizing the impact of trauma is essential in providing effective support to your friend. Trauma-informed care involves understanding the prevalence of trauma, recognizing its effects, and responding in a compassionate and empowering manner.

Listening and Validating: One of the most important ways to support a friend facing adversity is by actively listening to their experiences without judgment. Create a safe and non-threatening space where they feel comfortable expressing themselves. Validate their feelings and experiences, acknowledging the courage it takes to speak out about such sensitive matters.

Encouraging Self-Empowerment: Empower your friend to make decisions about their own safety and well-being. Offer support without trying to dictate their choices. Help them explore their options and assist in developing a safety plan if they're ready. Encourage them to prioritize their own needs and to seek help when necessary.

Providing Information and Resources: Knowledge is power, especially in situations involving violence. Familiarize yourself with available resources both nationally and within your community. Click the Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault, or Teen Dating Violence tabs for additional recommendations!

National Resources:

  1. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 

  2. National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV):

    • Website: ncadv.org

    • NCADV is an organization dedicated to raising awareness about domestic violence and providing support to survivors. Their website offers educational materials, survivor resources, and information on how to get involved in advocacy efforts.

  3. RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): 

    • Phone: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

    • Wesbite:https://www.rainn.org/resources

    • Provides support for survivors of sexual violence, including a 24/7 hotline and online chat.

  4. Love is Respect: 

    • Phone:1-866-331-9474

    • Text "loveis" to 22522

    • Website:https://www.loveisrespect.org/

    • Offers support, information, and resources for young people experiencing dating abuse.

  5. Domesticshelters.org

    • Website: https://www.domesticshelters.org/

    • Largest searchable directory of domestic violence programs and shelters in the US and Canada. The website also contains countless helpful articles and tools for people experiencing DV, and for advocates serving victims.

  6.  Break the Cycle

    • Website: https://www.breakthecycle.org/

    • Information organization dedicated to educating survivors, community and political outreach and the dismantling of stereotypes and stigma surrounding domestic violence.

Idaho Resources:

  1. Idaho Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence: 

    • Website:https://idvsa.org/

    • Provides resources, training, and advocacy to support survivors and end domestic violence in Idaho.

  2. Idaho Legal Aid Services:

    • Website: https://www.idaholegalaid.org/

    • Idaho Legal Aid Services provides free legal assistance to low-income individuals facing issues related to domestic violence, including obtaining protective orders, navigating family law proceedings, and accessing housing and financial resources.

Supporting a friend facing domestic violence, sexual abuse, harrassment, or other violent crime requires an approach that prioritizes their safety, autonomy, and empowerment. By actively listening, validating their experiences, and providing access to resources, you can play a significant role in helping them navigate this challenging time. Remember to take care of yourself as well and seek support from professionals or support groups if needed. Together, we can work towards ending domestic violence and creating safer communities for all.